Our Types.

I am an ENFJ. Generally in relationships, I am able to communicate well. I am very
perceptive about the motives that lie behind people’s actions. At times I can be warm and affectionate, and I tend to bring out the best in others. I seek life-long relationships and constantly am looking to fulfill others needs before my own. I am a handful to be with, lively, energetic, and humorous. I am also good with money and tend to look for win-win situations. My weaknesses are that I tend to be controlling and overly manipulative, with a tendency to avoid problems and confrontation. I also can be critical of other peoples opinions that do not agree with my own. And I am sometimes not aware of social appropriateness. When things go wrong, I take the blame, and am often too immersed in giving other people what they want, that I neglect myself.

Jose is an ESFP. Generally in relationships they love to be in love, and try to make the most of every moment. However they are not naturally long term commitment people. With this commitment problem ESFP’s move from relationship to relationship, not forming any real commitments. ESFP’s also tend to be somewhat materialistic and are too caught up in what others think about them. ESFP’s do not handle conflicts or criticism well, often they react suddenly and harshly, often regretting things they said after. ESFP’s are generally warm and giving, they have simple needs and demands from their boyfriend/girlfriend. They seek happiness, and want to make others happy also.

I asked my mom about marriage and what are the best things about it. She didn’t have much to say that was good. She has only been married once and that was to my father, and that marriage ended in a bad divorce that is still being settled. She says that the only good thngs that she experienced during marriage was raising us, having children and nurturing them. At the start of the marriage, she says it was enjoyable being with the person you think you’re in love with and are going to grow old with. It is nice to have the support of a spouse when you come home from a long days work. It’s nice to have the idea that together you area force and are taking on the world as a team.

However when I asked about the most difficult things about marriage, she began to laugh. “Everything,” was her answer. It’s hard to adjust to living with a totally new person, away from your family. It’s weird trying to compromise about where stuff should be, and complaining about dirty habits. It is hard arguing, and trust and commitment is a huge difficult thing. It is difficult giving your life to someone, and trusting them to take care of you and give as much as you are giving them back. It is difficult to give up your selfishness and become selfless.

Love Song Analysis.

I really like the song “Superhuman” by Chris Brown and Keri Hilson. It’s not my favorite though. It’s not like all those love songs you hear nowadays like “touch my body”, etc. It has a message and describes a real situation. I think that this kind of love described in the song is God’s ideal for me right now. It doesn’t go too deep, but it describes how strong someone makes another feel and how they empower each other. This song helps me see that if I get into a relationship I should get into one that makes me happy, makes me stronger and better. I know that it will not be exactly like this song describes, but maybe I can come close. The song however doesn’t focus on family or the possible future, it just talks about the here and now. I don’t think there are any irrational words, sentences in this song, all the language is of a rational nature. However the song doesn’t give a sense of a persons capableness. Although they don’t say things like, “I can’t live without you”, they give the sense that they are totally dependent on each other, that their whole recovery was due to the other person and everything good in their life is solely because of that person. I don’t think that there are any sexual innuendos in this song, I tried to choose one without. If I was the object of this persons love message, I would feel extremely valuable and good about myself. I’d feel like I was the center of their lives, like I helped them and was responsible for their happiness. I think that the song that I chose is typical of the songs my friends and I listen to. We all listen to slow jams that describe an amazing relationship or occurrence with another person. Just because it’s an escape from reality, we like to listen to the ideals. The music is just right for the lyrics, there no hard backbeats, it lets you concentrate on the words, and soothes you. Now that I have carefully analyzed the message of this song, I wish that I could be that person for someone, that I could impact someone’s life that much, and be that valuable, feel that valuable.


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Since I was a little girl, I used to play pretend with my imaginary “Prince Charming”. He would be very handsome, be a great dancer, and buy me plenty of exquisite and expensive dresses, with matching jewelry of course. I guess I changed significantly, got more demanding, and picky. When I was little I didn’t have a list of “must haves”, non- negotiables”, and a “Wish for” list. Now, I find myself creating mental lists all the time, constantly adding and expanding the lists every day.

These days, if I ever do get married I want my spouse to be devoted and faithful to me. He has to be willing to compromise, and work through the rough times. I want a man who has a strong head upon his shoulders, meaning he knows what he wants to do, and when faced with choices, he’s decisive. I want someone who isn’t easily affected or influenced by people around him. I don’t want him to be a “people pleaser”. I want him to be accepting and understanding of my flaws. I want a somewhat outgoing guy who will be able to win over and cooperate with my family. I want someone who can turn the worst situations into the best ones and to be able to make me see the good in things. I want someone who will make me want to strive to be better.

I asked my mom about what she would tell me to look for in a spouse, the first thing she said was faithfulness and honesty. She also said, “Everything that your dad is not”, (giggles). J She said that she want good-looking grandchildren, so they’d have to be somewhat good-looking. She wants him to be very family oriented, and an over achiever. She also wanted him to be God-fearing. My mother knows I have a big appetite and that I’m messy sometimes, so she stated that he had to be a neat man, who could do the laundry and clean up after himself and who knew how to cook sinigang, one of my favorite Filipino dishes. Then she said that as long as he loves me, treats my children and I right, that she will accept him with open arms.

I was baptized a Catholic, and went to a Catholic school until sixth grade. My cousins were Catholic and Adventist. So I had been exposed to “God” all my life. I went to mass, did confession, and completed my sacraments, never once doubting the existence of God. I never really had a personal relationship with Him, just somehow knew he was there because I was told that all my life. During my teenage life, I started “waking up” you could call it, to reality, to what a cruel and menace filled world this earth is. The situations and hardships I experienced made me doubt the existence of God, so I started thinking about all the possibilities. I mean it sure was nice to think that something/one was watching over you and loving you unconditionally, but circumstances were telling me otherwise. I thought that it was just too extreme, too much to accept all the things that Christianity claimed. I didn’t think we had a purpose, we were all just evolved probably, and the Discovery Channel seemed like they knew what they were talking about. They were realistic. But the further and further I tried to sink into the scientific explanation the more I realized, this sucks. So I went back to Christianity. And I started to notice things that I hadn’t noticed before, probably because I wasn’t trying. When I would lose something I would pray, then literally in a matter of seconds and I would spot it. At first I just thought that it was just a coincidence, but to this day the same things happen. There are way too many miracles like the miracle of birth, our bodies, the solar system, the world, to say that everything just formed out of chance. If it was formed out of chance why is the circle of life and the ecosystem so perfect, and why do they work together so perfectly? Wouldn’t there still be imperfections and mutant looking things walking around? And another thing the Bible is not a folk tale, its history. Studying in religion class about wisdom literature and secular thinking and arguments has just proven to us more that the Bible is historical. It is filled with eyewitness accounts, reports. It’s all true.. What they say, about God. He is out there. You just have to look, sometimes earthly things blind you.

Parents Philosophy

When I asked my stepdad about his philosophy on life, at first he said that he hadnt thought of that before. It took him sometime to assign a philosophy to his life and practices, but soon enough he came up with a simple one. With everything you do, everything you wrok for and to, do it with all your heart and to the best of your ability.

He continues... I am a very hardworking person, ever since iI was little I would try to help my mother and father with finances. I saw that I could have a better life than them, and I knew I had every chance and opportunity to continue down that path. Living as long as I have, I know now that this pathis not easy. Life will only give you back what you put out into it. So naturally you must strive in all the tasks that are thrust upon you. You want a surplus, a reward? Then give 110, 120, 130 percent! It's as simple as that. A hardworking person with faith in God will excel. Why would you settle for mediocrity. when you can work the best, do the best, then become the best? Now I have my own family, I have a good job, and a great life. Each day I see them, I want to work harder, keep on giving,so they too will see thatif you over achieve and do things to the best of your abilities, you can litereally do anything. So aim for the sky, you have nothing to lose. Doing your best will broing the best of things and bring you the best circumstances. Put your heart into 100% of everything that is assigned to you, even though you think that some tasks seem tedious or meaningless.

My Philosophy

Many people have philosophies about life, ways that they should handle things, ways that they should live. Some people seize the day, and do whatever they please, while some people chose to live with no regrets . My philosophy ism that everything happens for a reason, so when you get knocked down, remember that God is in control and that things will work out and end up how they were meant to be. I've had to deal with alot of trying times throughout my life. Being the oldest of three and having to support my two younger sisters through a divorce was one of those. At first, I couldn't understand why this was happening; I had always imagined my family together. I wanted to turn back time and go back to how I tought it was supposed to be. But now that the storm has passed, I see now that everything has worked out. I no longer have to suffer, and neither do my parents, or sisters. There arent any fights at home, my mom is happy with her new husband, and my sisters and I have developed a stronger bond. My dad realized what he had done was wrong, and accepted all the consequences. He now also supports my half sister, Crystal, and hes trying to earn my trust back.There are many such instances like that in my life. I feel that if i can accept that good things, and even bad things have their on purpose, I can put my life into greater focus. I will no longer dwell in the past and its pains, and long for the joyous days. Now i can concentrate on the here and now. I learned from the past, accepted it, and moved on, ready to endure until the end. I know that i can entrust God with my life, and that He is in control. I am in His hands, and give my life to Him. My history is already written out. Even if i fall a million more times, hope isnt lost until I stop trying. I know that I have something to live for, and I know things will be alright.